Parentification Explained

Parentification is a complex family dynamic that can have profound effects on a child's development and mental health. It occurs when a child takes on adult responsibilities or provides emotional support typically provided by parents. This article will take an in-depth look at parentification, its different types, and its effects on children.

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What is Parentification?

Parentification occurs when children are expected to take on the roles and responsibilities that are typically reserved for adults. This can include providing emotional support to parents or siblings, managing household tasks, or even acting as a primary caregiver.

This role reversal can be detrimental to a child's development and mental health, as it can interfere with their ability to form healthy relationships and navigate their own emotions.

Types of Parentification

a child doing some household chores as a result of parentification

Parentification is a complex process that can take on various forms depending on the roles and responsibilities that a child is forced to assume. Among the 4 main types of parentification are as follows:

Emotional Parentification

Emotional parentification occurs when the child is expected to provide emotional support to family members, often at the expense of their own emotional needs. For instance, a child may be asked to comfort a parent who is going through a divorce, instead of receiving it. This can leave the child with little room to process their feelings about the situation.

Instrumental Parentification

Instrumental parentification involves the child taking on practical responsibilities, such as household  chores or paying bills. Parentified children engage in this complex role-reversal dynamic because their parents are either unable or unwilling to handle the responsibilities themselves.

Parent-Focused Parentification

Parent-focused parentification occurs when a child tries to act as the parent to their parent, often due to the parent’s mental health issues or substance use disorder. For example, a child might have to take care of a parent who struggles with substance abuse, and even ensure the parent’s safety and manage their recovery process.

Sibling-Focused Parentification

This involves the child taking on a caregiving role for younger siblings, providing physical or emotional care. A parentified child in this case will assume the responsibility of feeding, bathing, and comforting their younger siblings in the absence of parental care.

Adaptive Parentification

Adaptive parentification happens when a child takes on a parental role due to a parent's absence or disability. While these tasks can benefit the child's development if temporary and age-appropriate, they can also lead to stress and other challenges

Destructive Parentification

This involves a child assuming adult roles that surpass their developmental stage and can negatively impact their well-being and development. Destructive parentification often occurs when an emotionally unstable parent confides in their child about adult issues, which can hinder proper child development and affect their well-being.

Signs of a Parentified Child

Recognizing the signs of a parentified child is crucial in understanding and addressing this role reversal in the family dynamic. Here are some indicators:

Taking on adult responsibilities

A parentified child may be seen managing household finances due to financial hardship, such as paying bills or budgeting for groceries. They might also be responsible for caring for their younger siblings, preparing their meals, helping with homework, and ensuring their safety. These are classic signs of instrumental parentification.

Providing emotional support to parents and younger siblings

In cases of emotional parentification, a child might be the one comforting a parent who is going through a difficult time, such as a divorce or job loss. They might listen to their parent’s worries and provide reassurance, often neglecting their own emotions in the process.

Neglecting their own needs and emotions

Parentified children often put the needs of their family members before their own. Often, these children receive no support of any kind in return. For instance, they might suppress their own feelings of sadness or stress to avoid burdening their already struggling parents. This types of parentification often lead to unaddressed mental health issues, such as eating disorders and substance use disorders.

Poor boundaries

Parentified children often display the inability to set boundaries due to their role reversal experiences. For example, they might feel obligated to take on adult responsibilities or provide emotional support even if it’s detrimental to their own well-being.

Experiencing chronic stress or depressive symptoms

The burden of assuming parental roles and the neglect of their own needs can lead to chronic stress in parentified children. They might also show depressive symptoms, such as persistent sadness, loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed. They may also develop eating disorders and erratic sleep patterns.

Symptoms of a Parentified Child

Parentified children would exhibit different symptoms in various ways. Some of these symptoms are as follows:

Chronic stress

A parentified child often experiences constant stress due to the adult responsibilities they carry, which can affect their physical and mental health. For example, a child who is always worried about paying bills or caring for younger siblings may experience ongoing stress.

Anxiety and depression

The burden of parentification can lead to mental health issues like anxiety or depression because a parentified child might constantly worry about their family members. Plus, they may experience a pervading sense of sadness because they have to suppress their own needs and emotions to provide emotional and mental support to others. This can contribute to the development of eating disorders and substance use disorders.

Sense of guilt

The overwhelming amount of adult responsibility can cause feelings of inadequacy to the parentified child. For example, a child who is unable to meet the family’s financial difficulties might feel a sense of failure and guilt.

Struggles with personal relationships

Parentified children may find it hard to trust others, especially in romantic relationships. Having been relied upon heavily in their family, they might fear being taken advantage of or worry that others will not reciprocate their level of commitment and responsibility. This can lead to unhealthy relationships.

Parentification Trauma  

Parentification can lead to trauma—thus the term parentification trauma. This trauma is often caused by the chronic stress of taking on adult responsibilities and providing emotional support at a young age. These issues can result in adverse childhood experiences.

Moreover, it can take a heavy toll on the child's physical health and lead to serious medical conditions. This complex family dynamic can also result in mental illness and difficulty forming healthy and romantic relationships in adulthood.

How to Address Parentification and Help Parentified Children?

Addressing parentification and supporting parentified children involves the following strategies:

Recognize the Signs

The first step is to recognize the signs of parentification in children. This can include children taking on adult responsibilities, providing emotional support to parents or siblings, neglecting their own needs, and struggling to set healthy boundaries.

Seek Professional Help

If a child is showing signs of parentification, it’s important to seek help from a mental health professional. Therapists and counselors can provide methods and strategies that can help the parentified child and their family navigate these complex dynamics.

Family Therapy

Family therapy can be particularly beneficial in addressing parentification. This approach can help the entire family understand the impacts of parentification and work together to create healthier dynamics.

Support Groups

Support groups can provide a parentified child with a safe space to share their experiences and feelings. They can also learn from other parentified children who have had similar experiences.


Educating parents and other family members about the harmful effects of parentification can help prevent it. This includes teaching parents the difference between adaptive and destructive parentification and the importance of age-appropriate responsibilities.

Promote Healthy Relationships

Encourage the child to form healthy relationships outside the family. This can provide these children with a broader support network and help them develop healthier relationship patterns.


Teach the child the importance of self-care and setting boundaries. This can help them understand that it’s okay to prioritize their own needs and emotions.

How Can Transcend Help?

Transcend Recovery Communities offers support for individuals who have experienced parentification trauma. Through therapy, support groups, and educational resources, we aim to help both parents and children understand the impact of parentification on their lives and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

By addressing the underlying trauma of parentification, Transcend strives to help individuals build better relationships and improve their overall well-being. Visit our website today to learn more about our individualized intensive programs, sober living facilities, and other services.  

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